Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Sleep Strike...

Colin isn't sleeping, I'm not sleeping..Sean is barely sleeping (the man can sleep though a lot.) Things aren't getting done, blogs aren't getting posted, christmas decorations aren't getting put away and most importantly I'm not writing! It's bad, I don't know what to do. All the old tricks aren't working, I'm down to two things that occasionally get him to sleep the car and nursing(although neither is 100% effective now and obviously not ideal methods). I've ordered a book that I'm hoping will help, and I have another one I can order if the first one doesn't work. Don't bother telling me to let him "cry-it-out" I just can't do it, I won't do it, not yet anyway. He hasn't put more than 3 hours together in over a month, and the average is closer to 90 minutes. Things are bad. To make matters worse I'm also now an insomniac, more on that later in Things no one told me-Part 4!


Anonymous said...

I am sorry to hear about your lack of sleep as well. I could not function and do work at the same time...I can only offer my thoughts and prayers for relief soon. I guess this is another reason that I am waiting for kids because I do not sleep late, but I do love my sleep. Has his pediatrician offered any sound advice? Elaine

AbbeM said...

Becky, I am so sorry. Lack of sleep is awful. I understand not being ready for "cry it out" (although we did eventually go to that). But what we instituted first was the "5 minute rule". We let Natalie cry for 5 minutes. If at any point during that 5 minutes she stopped for more than 20-30 seconds, the clock was reset. If she reached a full 5 minutes of crying, then we'd go in. Yes, sometimes that meant she would basically cry for 20 minutes, but at least we had our deadline, which helped me deal with not going to her.

At that point, when we went in the room we would try to not pick her up, but instead help her to lie down (if sitting up) and rub her back, but stay in the room until she was calm, then leave. If she started crying again, then the 5 minutes started over again.

It does work pretty well. And when we finally went to "cry it out", she went for about 20 minutes the first night before settling back down. It felt like forever, but it really wasn't that long. The next night was only 10, then about 5, and after 4-5 nights she wasn't crying at all. Now if she wakes up, she'll cry for about 20 seconds and then put her back to sleep.

I know every baby is different, so this may or may not work. But it worked for Natalie, so maybe you can do something along those lines! Good luck, and I hope you do get some sleep soon.

Erin said...

Have you developed a consistent, solid bedtime routine? That is something that helped us out a lot. Around 5:30, the bedtime process starts -- the boys get food (lately it's been grilled cheese!), and then I give them their baths. We play in the tub for 20 minutes or so, then we lotion them up, get them dressed, take them out to the living room, feed them their bottles, snuggle for a few minutes -- and off to bed. They are usually in bed around 7. I know that seems ridiculously early -- but if they go to bed much later than that, they're overtired and don't sleep well. It sounds counter-intuitive, I know, but it has worked out pretty well for us.

Also -- if he is still feeding during the middle of the night/having his diaper changed -- don't interact with him! That sounds strange, too, I know -- but if you smile at him, talk to him -- it basically encourages him to wake up!

I can't let my guys CIO, either -- but I do let them cry for a few minutes before I go in to pat them on the back, fix their covers, etc. They usually fall back to sleep after a minute without me intervening.

Good luck, I know how horrible sleep deprivation is -- I'm still pumping once during the night! UGHH!

Sneks said...

I am so sorry about the lack of sleep! I have no advice for you, but I really wish I did! Just wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you and hoping (for everyone's sake) that Colin gets some sleep soon!!! You'll get through this! :)

Andrea (Mom to the B's) said...

Bummer! thought I already commented but maybe it wasn't good advice or just didn't hit the right button to post.(could be my lack of sleep) Nursing to sleep and letting them sleep with me has always helped when we are behind in sleep, but it is another habit to break. Hang in there.

Anonymous said...

I know how you feel! I did not let John cry it out either, looking back, I should have. I let Christina, only because I learned from John and you don't have the same amount of time for the second child.

Let me know if you want me to come in and give you guys a break or if you want ome out to center and get a hotel so you don't look at everything that needs to be done in the apartment. I promise I won't let him cry!

Aunt Kathy